Let’s get REAL!
We scroll through our social media feeds, see top models with the perfect body and the perfect life…but are they really perfect?! What even is perfect?!
I always had a couple of stretch marks on my legs and bum due to my ‘pear shaped’ figure, but to be honest, they never really bothered me that much. They had been there for as long as I could remember and I’d just grown up with them.
During my first pregnancy with Quinn, I remember my skin would feel so stretched, tight and very itchy and one day they just POPPED. I ended up with dark red lines on my stomach that stretched from below my bikini line, to past my belly button and a belly button that definitely looked ‘lived in’. Weeks passed by and the stretch marks multiplied. I was so mortified. I cried and cried. It sounds shallow, but the one part of my body that I always felt most confident about was ‘ruined’. I was embarrassed and ashamed by what I saw in the mirror.
After my second pregnancy, my stretch marks had worsened slightly and were still visibly red and angry looking. I couldn’t understand. I had done all the ‘right’ things – Bio Oil, moisturised, kept hydrated etc. Nothing worked.
Becoming a parent is a HUGE change in your life, but you never seem to consider the physical changes. Yes, my body had done incredible things! It had created life and given me two gorgeous babies. For that I will be forever grateful. But why was it so hard to accept the person looking back at me in the mirror?
Social media is a part of our every day lives and more so for myself as it is actually my day job. Like most things in life, we see the good and the bad, and unfortunately some of social media’s best intentions haven’t always worked that way. I recently watched the documentary The Social Dilemma on Netflix – if you’ve not seen it, I really recommend the watch. It was so interesting to see how simple good intentions like the ‘Like button’ on Facebook had ended up having such detrimental impacts on our metal health. A simple action feeding our innate need to be noticed, somehow making us feel validated? Have you deleted a post from not getting noticed or enough engagement? We’ve all fallen into the trap at some point…I could go on, but thats for another post, another time.
What I’m trying to say is no matter who you are in the world, we all have our imperfections, whether they are visible or not. No one is ‘perfect’. It’s ok not to be ok. It’s ok not to feel confident and to feel insecure. I still don’t know if I will ever wear a bikini again, or if I will get to the point where I feel 100% comfortable in my own skin. I’m only human. Chances are there is someone out there who feels exactly the same way, someone you look up to and idolize.